How do I bring discipline into life

Learn discipline: 12 tips for more self-discipline.

Discipline can be learned. It takes a lot more than will to want to change something. Will alone is definitely not enough. But without the willpower to try to overcome the hurdles on the way, change will have no chance.

The more will, the better, but even the smallest spark can be enough to ignite the great fire. And achieve goals. Nobody can force you to say no, for example. Everything can stay as it is. Your will decides to what extent you really want to get involved in the path, the exercises and the upcoming experiences. The will also decides whether you fall into old behavior or give the new possibilities a chance to establish themselves again and again. This applies to diet, sport and also the way of saying no. You can learn discipline, I promise!

12 tips for more self-discipline

In order to learn self-discipline, it is not enough to just read a few tips. In the best case scenario, you will immediately see an impulse that you believe can be implemented directly, then you should do it - directly. Don't hesitate, just start. To come to the point: you know yourself best of all. So when you have ideas 13, 14 and 15, be sure to pick up the impulse, the following will (hopefully) serve as suggestions.

Self-discipline is an important key to satisfaction

Self-discipline to more satisfaction, reads well, right? The fact is: there is no way around self-control to enable new habits to enter your life. How so? Because we have to go the other way around to establish a new habit. In other words: work first, then pleasure. A stumbling block are our bad habits, i.e. those that have already gotten stuck in your life. Do you like chocolate? Great, then eat this and only later you see with a look at the scales that it was not a good idea. Or you get stomach ache after eating the bag of chips. First the pleasure, then the pain. That is the problem of bad habits - and that often makes it so difficult for us to bring new processes or routines into our lives in a disciplined manner - and thus to achieve goals.

The big secret is that there is no such thing as a secret. Everything has already been uncovered, explored, experienced, people are really simple in some places. Numerous studies have shown how we tick, think and feel. Now the task is to implement. Learn. Experienced. To practice. And don't get discouraged. You probably know that it takes a few days, often 28 days, until something new is established. I know enough ex-smokers who, even after years, sometimes struggle not to touch a glowing stick. But they know that that would take them straight into the smoke again. So, be prepared that it is not always easy. Would be too nice ...

Tip 1: repel difficult things with a magnet

In other words: making light things attractive

If you want to become more self-disciplined then what you are trying to re-establish should be really attractive to you.

  • Would you like to learn to say no? Then you should know what to say yes to.

  • Do you want to stop smoking? Then you should know what to do instead!

The other - new - side has to really attract you, make you smile and bring you joy. Your "yes" must be worth it to you that you want to do your best! You should almost already see and feel the success.

  • What do I want to part with in order to make something possible?

  • Which energy vampires do I banish from my life?

  • What is good for me right now?

  • What do i really want

  • What am I saying yes to?

  • What am I saying no to?

Tip 2. The marathon is the ultimate goal. Putting on shoes is the beginning.

You'd like to jog, of course, like the New York Marathon. Your condition is "50 meters, no more step". Of course, you can aim for the marathon if that is your big yes in the long run. Watch how people cheer you as you walk lightly through the streets between the skyscrapers at kilometer 23.4. Your first step, however, is much less spectacular: Put on sports shoes. Every 2nd day. In the morning at 6 o'clock, even in winter, even in the rain. So set yourself a small goal first. Step by step, you will probably make it better than from 0 to 100 in 7 days - so as not to make it in the end and stay frustrated in bed in the morning. First a small step. Make this a routine, only then add the next one.

Tip 3. Focus on the goal.

As mentioned earlier, if the marathon is your goal, start putting on your shoes. And visualize as much as you enjoy it. Perhaps you are already planning the trip, who will you take with you, when will you register, where will you be staying? How will you feel when you are at the start, how will you feel when you run through the finish line? Make yourself a poster, write down your feelings, if that suits you, and give the big goal the opportunity to really expand inside yourself. Your big "yes", the vision and the focus are your biggest magnets

Tip 4. Together we can do it even better!

Jogging alone is nice, in a group of like-minded people it works a little better. To get up together, overcome your inner weaker self and notice how the applied self-discipline has more and more positive effects, almost nothing is more motivating. Find a group, if there isn't one, start one. Maybe your neighbor is just waiting for an impulse, maybe your colleague would also be grateful for a little nudge? Start. Make it easy.

Tip 5. Rewards are great.

Of course, the marathon is the big goal in our example, but the reward shouldn't be so long in coming. Repeatedly set points at short intervals to celebrate. Have you outsmarted your bastard 10 times, put on your shoes and walked a few meters? Great, a great start, what will you reward yourself with?

You finally said no to your colleague who had been getting on your nerves for a long time? Congratulations, how do you reward yourself? If you like, you can also put this down in writing. Diary is still a great way to remember successes because there will come a time when motivation doesn't work out that well and you benefit from the memory.

Tip 6. Stay on the ball with discipline. Or get him back.

21 days, 28 or 90 days - new habits need to be played. Regularly. So if you give up after 3 days, you have gambled away, at least for the moment. Retrieve the ball, reposition it, move on.

Tip 7. Train the muscle of self-discipline - get to know each other

Willpower is a muscle that can be strengthened with a lot of self-discipline. Are you one of those people who find it difficult to discipline, who get a lot of distraction, or who have difficulty concentrating? Then start with small exercises start building the muscle of will. You will quickly notice that no matter what exercise you do, the muscle will also develop its strength in other situations. As an exercise to strengthen your own will, you can e.g.

  • if you are right-handed, start brushing your teeth with your left hand for ten days.

  • Or you can stand on one leg to shave in the morning.

  • You can change the order of breakfast or

  • Drive a way to the office from now on and if you can't think of anything, then

  • stand in a chair for three minutes each day.

Why should you do that? Because you made up your mind to. That's enough. Your will is a muscle that is not asked for which situation it is being strengthened, it does not matter at all, whether it is about the no or the daily jog or whether you have just made up your mind to stand on a chair. Once you start training it, you can use it better and better in all situations.

Take a "succinct" situation to train the muscle of the will. You will quickly notice that you not only gain discipline, but also that the unfamiliar brushing procedures become much better. In other words, the new processes of action, which were so strange at the beginning, become more routine.

Tip 8. Do you have to or want to?

"I finally ... have to learn to say no."

Do you really have to? You can very well not work either. What would the consequences be? So isn't it much more the case that you want to work in order to be able to pay the rent and to be able to afford nice things? Don't you want to do a lot more for sport in order to get a better condition or simply because you enjoy it? You don't have to do much in life, but saying no is definitely not one of them. You don't have to, you can continue as you have done before.

Tip 9: throw perfectionism overboard!

The sneakers have to cost half a fortune, the sports gear has to be color-matched and the running technique has to be that of a professional right from the start. Obviously that's nonsense, but perfectionism likes to get in our way, clever thing. We tell ourselves that we can only start to ignore the glowing sticks in winter - but of course it's spring now. We can only start the diet when our partner goes along with it, that's really stupid on its own. Excuses and perfectionism are very close to each other, in the best case you should find out about both, be aware of them and then - start anyway. :)

Tip 10. Wrap the new in the old.

It works for some people and not for others, try it out. If you want to eat more fruit and less chocolate, put both on a plate. Lots of fruit, little chocolate. If you want to grab something sweet, just ask yourself what you really want. Is it just a habit that you reach for chocolate? Great. Because then, in the best case scenario, you are on an insightful path ... and the next time you shop, leave the chocolate on the shelf.

Tip 11. Realistic, please.

Setting boundaries can be a perfect goal. But if you can't even say the word at the sausage counter when the seller tells you that it is not the 500 grams you ordered but 600 grams, then you better start there. Set small goals for yourself. And don't forget to reward yourself.

Tip 12. Self-discipline: Make a commitment!

Be good to yourself, start in small steps and with small goals. Just do it. And enjoy every step in the direction of your magnetic target.