What does scream mean

1. Why do babies cry?

In summary, one can say: babies cry to attract attention. Not in a calculating sense, but simply in the absence of alternatives. What does such a little dwarf want to do to convey “Hello, I need something!”?

Babies are needs-oriented. So they mostly scream when, as I said, they just need something. For example, they cry when they are hungry, when they are too warm or too cold, when they are tired, need a fresh diaper or simply need to be close. However, sometimes they also scream when all of these needs are seemingly satisfied. That can be very demanding as a parent, because of course you want to "help" so much, but sometimes you just can't. Just be by baby's side, calm it down as best you can and just be "there". That will help him.

2. How loud is a baby's crying actually?

Definitely very loud. Did you know that hearing protection is recommended when working above 85 decibels? Then you might be surprised to hear that, according to the latest research, baby screams can reach a volume of up to 120 decibels - that's the noise a jet makes!

3. How often is screaming "normal"?

This is very different. There are babies who cry more often than others. Even for no apparent reason. Often it is “just a phase” in which people yell more often.

A child is considered a crying baby if it cries for three hours at a time, three days a week over a period of three weeks. Some babies can "cry through" for up to eight hours. In Germany, around every fifth child is a scream child.

4. What can I "do" when I have a cry child?

Parents of cry babies need one thing above all: strong nerves and opportunities for relief. Because only in the least of these cases does “being a scream child” have physical reasons. Sometimes three-month colic is to blame, sometimes the KISS syndrome (a misalignment of the cervical spine) is diagnosed, sometimes it is also a food intolerance. Most of the time, however, it is a self-regulatory problem. This means that these babies react faster and more violently to external stimuli than other children. This makes them excitable more quickly and simply always "on alert".

You can't do much then. The best recommendation for screaming children is therefore still "create calm". Same routines and not flooded with stimuli. But that is precisely what is very exhausting for the parents, because when a baby “always” cries, sometimes you just can't anymore. It is therefore particularly important to get help from grandma / grandpa / babysitter so that you can "breathe deeply" for a few hours in between.

5. Is "screaming" dangerous?

Nobody can stop their baby from crying. Nobody. But there is a huge difference between hugging my baby and trying to calm him down and “just making him cry”. Because "let screaming unnoticed" harms your child. Very! It has been proven that it is bad for the baby's psyche if he is made to cry regularly.

Better: Even if you are stressed and you are sometimes overwhelmed or annoyed: Try to take a deep breath and just be “there” for your baby. It's so small and so defenseless, and it certainly doesn't scream “on purpose”. Just try to remind yourself of this over and over again.

6. What can I do to calm my baby down?

Let's assume that all of your little one's needs (diaper, hunger, tired, etc.) are satisfied. But it still screams. What can you do to calm it down during screaming attacks?

The most important point: be there. Just be there. Take your baby in your arms and comfort him. Don't be afraid to pamper it - that's not possible with young babies.

You can also try to give your little one a regular noise. That can be a steady “shhhhh” or calm music or simply swaddled in a sling so that it can hear your heartbeat. Some babies also calm down particularly well when they hear the vacuum cleaner or the washing machine running.

Some babies calm down better when they are “on the move”. Walking around with the baby in your arms or in a sling, and taking a stroll in the stroller or car can sometimes work wonders.

If pacifiers and the like do not help or if you consciously want to do without these aids, you can also try a warm bath. Some babies enjoy this cozy warmth very much.